Just say it. There are things beneath the surface. There are fears and frustrations that we each need to talk about. Where do they go? How do you say it? When do you say it? Who gets to hear?
The thing is, sometimes we don’t want to talk about those things. Or one of us does and the other one doesn’t. Or watching tv and playing video games is easier and less stressful. We have reasons to go, reasons to stay. Reasons for excitement, reasons for fear. Also, some straight-up logistics. But the logistics become a reminder of the other thoughts and mixed emotions happening and then it becomes a crazy conversation before it even leaves your head.
Right now though we’re trying to determine what needs to be said now, what needs to be addressed later and what we need to let go of completely. Because honestly, you don’t just go and restart your life with a new state, new career path and new life plan without having a few pieces of baggage to deal with (both literally and figuratively). In the past few months we’ve been hurt; we’ve been bored; we’ve been challenged; we’ve been confused; we’ve been excited; we’ve disagreed; we’ve been rejected; we’ve cried; we’ve dreamed; we’ve prayed and we’ve been blessed.
Needless to say, it’s a lot to digest.
